tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088212709652359108.post4388805868056823529..comments2023-03-27T10:10:56.021-04:00Comments on The Deviated Norm: Spy vs. Spy (Or What I Don't Get About Straight Culture)TheDeviantEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11962230588950968738noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088212709652359108.post-64368277498785534312009-05-01T22:01:00.000-04:002009-05-01T22:01:00.000-04:00I think the short answer is that mainstream straig...I think the short answer is that mainstream straight women and mainstream straight men are basically subs and doms, to at least a mild degree.Zach Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00151602309039084745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088212709652359108.post-37494708207820547012009-04-03T23:46:00.000-04:002009-04-03T23:46:00.000-04:00It seems to be a straight thing and I have no fuck...It seems to be a straight thing and I have no fucking idea why it exists and why it won't fucking stop. Fuck.<BR/><BR/>Even reading about it pisses me off to the point of using naughty words, and I'm not even in the day-to-day throes of it right about now.<BR/><BR/>There's almost nothing I hate more. <BR/><BR/>It's probably because I don't have that "instinctual" feel for it that you mentioned. I have no idea. It's a game I lose over and over. Worse than losing, I show up with my uniform and protective goggles and wrist bands only to find that everyone is laughing. Laughing at me because I didn't catch on to the rule change that forbids all of the above. So I take it all off, and they're still laughing at me, and I still lose. And then they laugh more. And then next time I show up completely naked and everyone fucking laughs because, dude, where are my shin guards? Where are my cleats?<BR/><BR/>Fuck it. When I think about this, I wish I were gay.Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10523307255698594696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088212709652359108.post-56860462057663831132009-03-26T16:27:00.000-04:002009-03-26T16:27:00.000-04:00While I do acknowledge that not all straight peopl...While I do acknowledge that not all straight people interact this way (and that some gay couples do), I disagree that this doesn't make it a "straight culture" thing. While some of the most egregious examples are in the "mainstream" area of straight culture, there are plenty of fucked up examples of interpersonal relating in "alternative" straight examples of music (HOO BOY are there in music), and film (oh HELL yes), and literature (not as sure what counts as "alternative" literature, but you tell me and I'll find you some right quick). <BR/>As someone who is immersed constantly in straight culture (since it IS the dominant culture), I do feel like it's a "straight" thing, not a "conventional" thing.TheDeviantEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11962230588950968738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088212709652359108.post-54092489706937152192009-03-22T15:03:00.000-04:002009-03-22T15:03:00.000-04:00I'm not sure I'd call it "straight culture"; I thi...I'm not sure I'd call it "straight culture"; I think I'd tend to call it "mainstream culture" instead, since I don't think it's only straight people who do it (and not all straight people do it either).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088212709652359108.post-39792370842086060072009-03-20T15:03:00.000-04:002009-03-20T15:03:00.000-04:00Amen, brother. That whole game really gets me down...Amen, brother. That whole game really gets me down. It's one of the things that drives me crazy about trying to find new relationships. (Thank goodness I've been out of that wacky world for quite a while.)<BR/><BR/>T and I both have a philosophy that if you like someone, you should tell them in no uncertain terms. This applies to both romantic and platonic relationships. When T wants to become friends with someone, he generally says to them, "I think you're really interesting and cool, and I'd love to hang out sometime." And what do you know? It works! <BR/><BR/>Relationships should be based on honesty and communication, not head games. At least, that's how I prefer my relationships. Evidently different things float different people's boats. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com